Be honest… you’re tired of meeting men who say all the right things but won’t plan a date, initiate a call, or show any real pursuit. You get your hopes up fast, then find yourself anxiously re-reading messages, and over-give just to keep the connection alive. You’re exhausted from entertaining men who talk about God but can’t lead with intention. The truth is, it’s not that you’re unworthy - it's that unseen patterns from the past have quietly shaped your choices, keeping you in the same cycle over and over. Those old beliefs need to be uprooted and cleared, making space for a new way of seeing men, relationships, and your own worth. By renewing your dating strategy and mindset, you'll approach dating with clarity & intention - and finally attract men who are truly ready for marriage.
Single Christian women hire me to prepare for a Godly husband + marriage, heal anxious attachment, and stop entertaining emotionally unavailable men.
I help single Christian women prepare for marriage on purpose - by healing trauma patterns, negative beliefs, and their anxious attachment style - which has only made their dating life confusing and unfruitful.
I don’t teach women how to chase men, manipulate attraction, or “play the apps better.” I teach women how to become discerning and biblically grounded, so they can recognise healthy, marriage-minded men by the click of their fingers and stop entertaining the ones who aren’t truly ready.
I do this work because I’ve lived it, and because far too many Christian women are sincere in faith, faithful in prayer, and exhausted from repeating the same relational cycles - without ever being taught why they're happening in the first place.
Hi, I'm Sophie!
servant, coach + girl mom living in the english countryside
The Refined Woman is a 4-month private coaching program where you can learn how to stop attracting men who don’t know what they want, using a simple 4-step process that supports you in connecting with emotionally mature, intentional men. This program is powerful because it doesn’t focus on surface-level advice like “update your dating profile” or “just steward your single season well and pray.” Instead, I guide you step by step through gently uncovering why you may be attracting emotionally unavailable men in the first place, while helping you learn how to date in a God-honoring way.
Together, we’ll explore patterns that may be influencing your dating experiences, including past hurt or unhealed areas, so you can begin stepping out of cycles that no longer serve you. We’ll work on renewing unhelpful beliefs about men and relationships, allowing you to approach dating with wisdom & discernment, instead of dread or disappointment. I’ll help you clarify what you truly need in a husband, so you can reduce the temptation to settle for passive connections “just in case” things change. You’ll also learn practical, intentional systems and strategies for navigating Christian dating with wisdom to help you better discern which men are aligned with your values and which are not.
The Refined Woman
"Feeling God's grief over my father was just so healing. To understand God's heart around my earthly father's behaviour was mind-blowing. I love what the Lord is doing through you and I do believe my fiancee is from God, so the fact that the work we did preceded our relationship in such an obvious way is special indeed." - Georgia, Canada
"The financial investment that I made for the 3 months has transformed the entire rest of my life and resulted in an eternal impact. I truly believe that God used this mentorship to save my life. Please do not let anything stop you." - Alison, U.S
"The biggest hindrance I was experiencing was just the overwhelming mental torment, shame and condemnation that was keeping me from being able to draw close to God. I have gotten so much freedom and breakthrough from that. I'm truly grateful and I feel that I have entered into a brand new season. This mentorship has been nothing but a blessing." - Alison, U.S
What they said...
Thanks for your message!
I'll take a look at it ASAP and respond to you within 3 business days.
Success
Godly dating wisdom for Christian women who value clarity and peace. Because emotionally available is the standard.