He had flowers in hand, a thoughtful gift tucked under his arm, and the bill paid in full. I remember sitting there thinking: This is what it feels like to spend time with a Godly man who is intentional, mature, ready for commitment & not afraid to show it.

Most people assume that moment “just happened.” But it didn’t. It never would have happened if I hadn’t first questioned why I was entertaining men who left me guessing what their intentions were and wondering if they were just speaking to me to pass the time. I was the woman who used to get attached to men within 5-7 business days, overthink every text, check my phone constantly, then feel anxious and unworthy when he didn’t move things forward.

I’d replay conversations in my head, wonder if I said something wrong, and feel hurt & disappointed when things didn't work out.

I was praying for a husband while entertaining men who weren’t yet demonstrating godly initiative.

Attracting Godly, intentional men didn’t happen overnight.

It started with understanding why I was attracting men who weren’t prepared for marriage in the first place.

I had to dig deep and clearly see the patterns behind my dating life—why I overthought texts, why inconsistency felt familiar, and why I was drawn to men who gave just enough attention to keep me hoping. I realized that my childhood and relational experiences had shaped my beliefs and subconscious to interpret breadcrumbing as love and passivity as pursuit.

I had to unlearn that from the ground up and relearn what healthy, intentional pursuit actually looks like—and what it feels like to receive it.
I needed to dig deep and clearly see the patterns behind my dating life – like why I overthought texts and attracted men who were inconsistent or simply filling their own time.

Once I began to examine my childhood trauma & the negative beliefs I had about men, everything changed - where I knew I was a woman who had been frgiven and redeemed and was worthy of a man pursuing me like Jesus did.